Feng on Sep 6th 2008 Being a Better Half
It was the Hubby’s 30 something birthday yesterday. We didn’t have anything planned since it was a Friday, a work day. I was almost about to cook dinner when I received a text message from him that we’ll just dine out to have a little celebration. And so at 7PM, he arrived home to pick us up and off we headed to our usual dining haven—Eastwood City, which is just minutes away from where we live. 
We didn’t get too far in looking for a place to eat. Without hesitations, we settled at Itallianis, which is just buildings away from the entrance. And lucky us because their P395 Italian Buffet promo was still on. And the best part of it, we just paid for two since Nico was not counted as one head. Needless to say, we’ve had a great threesome celebration to our hearts and stomachs content. 
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Feng on Jul 17th 2008 Being a Better Half
Was about to do Teacher Julie’s Weekly Question #8 today when a post of hers about the Marital Scale Test caught my attention. Curious what it’s all about, I snagged it and took the test myself. I was laughing so hard reading on and answering the questions. They were simply hilarious. It’s the new milenyo really and gender issues have really come a long way. Anyway, this was the result for me:
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Haha! I can hardly believe my eyes when I saw the result: Superior! I thought I’d fail the test and get demerits for so many reasons. Among them are three unforgettable answers I ticked: being a quite lousy housekeeper (heehee, vacuum cleaners and floor mops aren’t just my kind of companions to keep the home tidy and clean); I don’t allow the Hubby to sleep so late on Sundays and holidays (well, he needs to get up soon as I am up, so he can share doing the long line-up of chores at home as well); and, wears pajamas while cooking (well, I don’t see anything wrong with that but the scale rates it as demerit because wives, according to the scale, are supposed to keep self dainty, perfumed, and feminine all the time).
Now, that sounds self-serving! I guess, it could have been more accurate if the Hubby was the one who answered it. That way, it’s not biased. I’m sure he’ll be laughing his heart out too, ticking and clicking on the answers.
Curious about the test? You can take the test yourself here. Goodluck!
Feng on Jul 10th 2008 Being a Better Half
Earnings from my blogging gigs are slowly growing. It’s still a small amount but am smiling ear-to-ear seeing the $ figure increases each time there are opportunities that come my way.
I proudly showed the growing figure to Hubby when I logged in to my Paypal account this morning and well, he was pretty amazed to know that at least I get something monetary out of being online. Haha! The Hubby’s orientation of my attachment to Blogging has been a work in progress, really. He slowly learns what I’m up to as far as being online is concerned and sometimes he peaks in reading my Blog. But generally, he still doesn’t have enough thought on how far I’ve gone.
Anyway, being the overly-curious-still-learning-the-ropes-of-the-Internet person that he is, Hubby asked me how the money from the Blogging earnings would be used. Two convenient ways, I said. First, I can transfer the funds in my bank and credit card accounts and have them withdrawn after a few days (five banking days, I think)—the reason why I opened a Unionbank EON Card two weeks ago and due to be issued this coming Friday. And second, (which is by far, I’ve been itching to do) use the Paypal money in shopping online! Haha! Continue Reading »
Feng on Jun 16th 2008 Being a Better Half
I’ve always believed that the mother and child bond is known as one of the strongest bonds of any relationship. It isn’t difficult to understand why. Mothers are naturally the nurturing ones. The mother carries her baby for nine months, and she is wholly consumed by her child’s existence and imminent birth. She is the one who goes through labor and delivery, and everyone’s focus will naturally be on her. And once the baby is born, the center of love and attention will definitely be on him or her-the newborn.
With such inherent setup, the father then oftentimes takes the role of being the secondary caregiver. The new father can really feel insecure and uncertain about how to take care of a newborn, unlike the mother, who, just by following her natural instincts, knows how to care for her baby. I have to believe it’s but natural for the setup to be like that especially in the first couple of days and weeks, only the experience we had was kinda weird.
The moment that Nico was born, I was the one who felt not competent to care for a new baby while the new father in Hubby naturally showed up the first time he saw our fragile Little One. He was the first to change Nico’s diapers and though not really sure what do when the baby cries, he didn’t bother ask the nurses for help. Nico’s Dada, if only he had the milk machine that I had, I knew he would have done the breastfeeding part too. Heehee. Good thing, it was only me that can do the breastfeeding, I’ve had the bestest opportunity as well to form a strong bond with Little Nico. But the feeling was quite overwhelming at that time, and hesitant that I was, Hubby did not give up and encouraged me to take a more active role. Hubby bridged that connection between me and Nico. Continue Reading »
Feng on Jun 4th 2008 Being a Better Half
And so I created a little sort of mishap last Friday that really upset Hubby. As a peace offering, I invited Hubby for an afternoon date after my check-up with the doctor last Saturday. I treated him for a good lunch at Itallianis, then off we head to watch a movie.
It’s been a while since we last stepped on a movie theater, so feeling teeners that we are, we watched Sex and the City. Actually, Hubby preferred Indiana Jones more than the other. But seeing me really excited with watching SATC, the ever-patient Hubby gave in and so we’re in the movie house a little around past 2PM.
Sex and the City is more of a feel-good movie which revolves around four girlfriends and their set of love life. The movie is but fitting to feminists, but for movie goers who wanted to know the deepest of secrets of women and what ticks them to be their best, the TV flick turned movie is a must see.
Well, as for Hubby, he slept most of the time the movie was running and I don’t know if he slept because he practically knew everything about women or he’s just generous enough to give in to my movie preferences. In this particular movie, I think the Hubby just woke up at the movie scene parts where the four girlfriends are talking about the “colouring” thingie and hilarious Samantha drooling over a neighbor in her beachfront home somewhere Los Angeles (as I see, her home was much like one of those Outer Banks rentals getaway in beach stretches of North Carolina). Heehee.
Oh well, what can I expect with Hubby. He’s always been like that whenever we watch movies with feminists themes. The last time we went on a movie date (if my memory serves me right, that was the movie by Aga Mulach, Angelica Panganiban and Maricel Soriano), he was in dreamland too the entire movie was filming. If there’s any consolation for Hubby in watching the movie, that would be the two raffle tickets that we were handed. The tickets served as come-ons for movie goers crossing their fingers to win a trip for two to New York City.
Feng on Jun 1st 2008 Being a Better Half
I little mishap happened to me Friday night. Well, not really little, but it sure is far from intestines. It was around past 7PM and I am on my way home when I accidentally stepped on a big nail while walking in a dark sidewalk. I thought it was only a minor prick that I got and I was even thankful for it because even as I am wearing thin slippers, at least the big nail (about 2 inches long made it through as I removed it in my slippers) didn’t do much damage on my right foot. All I felt was a little numbness and I didn’t really mind it.
But a few more walks to our home, I was already feeling the pain and when I checked my foot, blood and more blood are gushing through the part of the skin that was pricked. Only at that moment it dawned to me that the damage was dipper than I thought it to be as I can hardly walk. I almost fainted but the pain tolerating me and a little courage got me home safe.
Good thing Hubby was already home when I arrived and helped me out with cleaning the wound. It was one painful mishap I’ve experienced for the last 20 years and gawd, the pain got me crying in buckets, as if I were a five-year old. Crying because of the pain, and crying more because in my mind, I was regretful of something really petty and immature I did hours before the mishap happened.
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Feng on May 29th 2008 Being a Better Half
Just had my regular reads of some electronic newsletters today and one article caught my attention so much that I found myself just nodding and agreeing with every word it stated.
It was an article writen by Gwen Morrison, a freelance author based in Georgia, who narrated an inspiring story about how she and her husband thought of romance in their married life, after being so occupied with parenting and being a Mommy and Daddy for over 10 years. In short, it was romance redefined.
Gwen just illustrated it so right how romance between the husband and the wife is not just about candlelight dinners and dates at romantic restaurants and movie houses, or an intimate night together with the spouse wearing some Shirley of Hollywood lingerie. LOL. Instead, she pointed out that romance in marriage is simply sharing life together. Here’s quoting some portion of that article: Continue Reading »
Feng on May 26th 2008 Being a Better Half
[This is my answer to Teacher Julie’s Weekly Question for this week: If you are married would you know if your husband is reading your blog? If you are in a relationship, would you know if your partner is reading your blog?]
Just like any form of human relationships, communication plays a very important role in a marriage. In fact, it is, more often than not, the key factor for a marriage to be long lasting. As one book had put it:
The heart of marriage is its communication system…But no couple begins with highly developed communication. It is not something they bring into marriage ready, but something to be continually cultivated through all the experiences of their shared life.”
And I so agree. Honestly, mine and Hubby’s marriage is far from being perfect. I clearly remember there were so many times (I think I’ve lost count) that we disagreed on so many things simply because we lack, or should I say, fail to really sit down and talk.
An example of this miscommunication just happened so recently. Remember the dark tunnel we’re traveling? Just so recently, we’re traversing one of the roughest roads in our married life. If only I have the courage to share everything, but to put it simply, the lack of communication between the two of us made the situation worst. Continue Reading »
