AND THEN THERE WERE TWO
My children. My two kids. My eldest and my youngest. My son and my daughter. These are just a few words how I address my two kids now and I’m still trying to get use to them. 
A month past after giving birth, I still can’t help but find myself in awe and amazement that we are now a family of four and that I am now a Mom to two wonderful kids. For over four years, my Mommy heart used to be beat just for one, to care and give love and attention exclusively for one. And now, here I am, loving and caring for two.
To say that my life as a Mom has taken another 365 degree turn when Monina was born is a cliché. But yes, life was never the same, for the second time.
When I was still pregnant with Mina, two of my greatest worries were if I can give the same love and attention to Mina the way I did for Nico and if I can have equal quality time for both of them. And then May 28 came, there are now two of them. Both needing care and attention.
In the middle of a study time with Nico, Mina cries for my milk. Mina usually comes first. But while she’s nursing, I watch Nico from afar as he answer his worksheets. And then when she’s done nursing and I’m about to rejoin Nico for his study, to my surprise, he’s done with his school homework already! And because everything’s done, there’s nothing I could anymore do but hug and kiss him as a sign of praise for his new level of independence.
Right now, our bedtime routines are tough that I often find myself torn between putting my one-month old first to sleep and my five-year old waiting for me to read him a bedtime story. And though planets weren’t that perfectly aligned to do both at the same time, I thought of a smart way to multitask. I rock Mina to sleep while reading to Nico and when this trick wont work, then I told Nico to wait. I’ll sing all the lullabies I know, quickly get back at Nico, only to find out he already fell asleep by himself. Sad indeed and often times I’d feel guilty, all I could do is tuck him to bed, and kiss him goodnight.
Scenarios like these goes on and I admit, it’s never easy. But each and every day, I am grateful to God for giving me such wonderful blessings—my two kids.
I love how the big brother fetches his sister’s diapers, help me with bathing by handing me the towel. I love how he sing and talk (and she sings and talks back too, heehee) to her to keep her happy. I love that he can be assigned to watch or check on his sister if she’s wakened from her nap while I prepare our lunch or while I shower. I love that he is fiercely protective of his sister, and I will not be surprise if one day, he will teach her all about the world around them.
Save for many exhausting nights and irregular sleeps, now, I don’t fear anymore my kids would think I do not love them fairly. Simply watching them as they create a strong bond and build sibling love is enough proof and assurance that they both appreciate the love and care their parents has for them. I realized that when you are a Mom, your Mommy heart will surely have enough room to love and care for another one, while at the same time, grow your love and affection for the first one.
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Love the last photo, Mina was smiling when Kuya kissed her. Sweetness!
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thanks Sis! hay naku, when your second baby is born, you’ll never get tired taking a photo of him/her and Deye!
hey, congratulations!!! sorry for the late greeting, been absent in the blogging world for quite a time, trying to balance work and family.
i had exactly the same questions as you before, could i give the same love to my bunso, could i love kyla as much as i love louna. but life, though difficult at times, is just wonderful. we’ve adjusted to the new situation and now, we cant even imagine life without kyla.
how’s nico? di ba nagseselos? it was difficult for louna before pero ok na sya ngayon.
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thanks, Analyse! :naku, pareho tayong wala na sa sirkulasyon sa blogging world, busy din sa pag-aalaga ng mga kiddos!
exactly, I can’t imagine my life without my two kids too. we’re all adjusting, especially Nico who suddenly have to shift from being the “only child” to a “big brother”. nagseselos din sya nung una, pero mga ilang linggo lang, ok na sya. at nauutusan pa magrun ng errands para sa baby.
very nicely said, sis. congratulations on the arrival of baby mina. love the pics..she’s adorable
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hi feng!
Been checking here once in a while to see how you are… I can almost imagine your night time situation.
I really doubted whether I’d want another child, but now I want one.
Buti pa kayo ni Ana, God-willing everything will fall into place for me, too. Next year perhaps?
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a mother’s heart is amazing…
hey feng, i share the same dilemma and sometimes the needs of the younger would come first and the older may be left out. as much as possible we try to attain a sense of balance with the way we treat them. it’s a challenge for me. by the way, your mina is so adorable and the kuya too.
congratulations, feng! the photos are adorable. lucky you, we’ve been trying for another baby but no such luck pa rin, he he.
I can’t imagine how it is having two kids because I only have one. It’s nice that kuya is not jealous of his baby sister and that the two of them seem to be fond of each other.
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time flies talaga! kuya na si nico! congrats to the new addition.
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I love the last picture, ang cute nila… buti hindi nag tampo si kuya