From Dawn Till Dusk

Co-sleeping has many rewarding benefits. We for example, have proven the many advantages of implementing this attachment parenting technique. For over four years now since we’re co-sleeping with Nico, I can say that we have been ensured of the physical and emotional and the “spiritual” health of our family.

During Nico’s “attachment phase” which was from 6 months to 2 years, we’re so glad for choosing to be sleeping with the Little Boy as we saw in him the feeling that he’s in the most comforting place to be whenever he sleeps on our family bed. Added to that, never we feared the threats of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, (which according to childcare books happens during the attachment phase where it is believed that possibly an underdeveloped nervous system may cause the baby to forget to breathe) simply because we’re together during sleep time as it is believed too that Mom and Dad’s rhythmic breathing is an excellent reminder for the baby to breath as well. I’d like to believe too that it was because of co-sleeping that Nico got to learn to sleep through the night as early as four months old, which meant more zzzz’s for me and Hubby.

Of course, we’ve had our share of sleepless nights too, most especially when Nico is sick. But the very same togetherness at night worked for us in anyway because we get to check on the Little Boy’s temperature on a regular basis.

If there’s a disadvantage with co-sleeping that we experienced, that’s plainly just the lesser and unpredictable Hubby and Wifey time, and nothing more. That is, if one can consider that as a disadvantage because for us, co-sleeping has been a very good form of contraception. Haha!

We currently have a queen-sized bed to sleep on and even though me, Hubby and our growing Little Boy are nearing being all cramped in our sleeping haven, we love the feeling of sleeping together as we feel we are more at peace and we feel we are more secured. And we’ve yet thought on having Nico transfer in the next room to us pretty soon. Well, not until the Little Boy told me just last Sunday that he wants to have his own room.

I was very shocked the moment that the Little Boy just told me that. Yes, I know and I expect that sooner or later, he would be having his own little space at home. But never did I thought he’d demand it this soon and in this phase that we’re not over yet with babying him with rituals before bedtime. When I asked him why, all he said was: “I’m a big boy now Mommy diba?” And then, I was speechless.

Oh well, maybe it’s high time that we get our buts moving because the way I see it, Nico’s at a phase of separation and independence. As BabyCenter had put it, “his newly discovered autonomy is linked to his sense of self and he flaunts it in so many ways”. And such that in our case, Nico’s demanding to have his very own room.

Hubby and I have talked about this already, and soon enough, hopefully, if our budget permits it, we’ll have the other room next to ours renovated preferably before the new school year begins in June. The windows of that room should be repaired plus that walls should be repainted. And hopefully when all the repairs and repainting were finished, we can initially furnish the room with the basics so as to make it more roomy for our growing Little Boy.

I was initially imagining Nico’s new room to at least be close to having something this:

It’s a shutter-style double bunk bed combo with guardrail, ladder and a versatile trundle below the deck matched with a computer hutch and desk and a study chair for our Little Preschooler. Saw this over at one of the furniture stores I browsed. It’s discount furniture store based in North Carolina that offers a wide array of America’s premiere name-brand furniture manufacturers. From bedroom furniture, dining room furniture, and living room furniture, as well as home office, home entertainment and leather furniture-name it, they definitely have it!

And why a double bunk bed, you may be curious to ask? Simply because, we will have Nico’s Ate Ness sleep at the upper bed in his room temporarily, thinking that with that arrangement, at the very least, he still have an adult companion in the room. Crossed fingers we will convince Nico to agree with that or else I don’t know how am I going to sleep peacefully without the Little Boy by my side!

Gosh, this soon-to-be separation with my Little Boy all throughout the night is giving me nothing but a feeling of separation anxiety. But I hope that pretty pretty soon, we’ll get adjusted to this new setup.