CAUGHT IN VIDEO! NANNY HITTING A CHILD
A few more minutes and we were about to eat dinner last night when suddenly a news on TV Patrol World of ABS-CBN 2 caught all our attention. It was about a Nanny who was caught by her employers on hidden camera hitting her alaga.
I quickly grabbed Jun’s mobile phone to record the news and thought it would be good to have it recorded in this online journal. My apologies for the low-resolution and the somewhat unstable shots I have in the video. Nico was hugging around me the whole time I was recording the video, making the video shaky. I was trying to search YouTube for this video, but I failed finding one.
According to the news report, the employers have suspicions that their child (about 2 years old) is being hit by his Nanny. And so at one time they left home, they set up a hidden camera in a focal area in the kid’s room where most likely the Nanny and the child are staying throughout the day. Upon returning home, the employers were not surprised to see in the video the Nanny hitting the child. The Nanny, who later was summoned by the employers to the police, eventually admitted her screwed acts and begged for forgiveness during an interrogation at the Police Station.
After watching this news, I made it a point to observe how Nico’s Yaya react to it. Her initial reaction was, “grabe naman yang Yaya na yan, walang awa sa alaga nya, at hinampas hampas pa yung bata, may sira yata sa ulo yon”. I was letting her speak for some minutes more before rebutting a reply to her reactions. She continued, “pero Ate, salbahe din kasi yung bata kaya gumanti lang yung Yaya nya. Buti na lang yung alaga ko (referring to Nico, my son) mabait at maginhawang alagaan”.
I obviously reflected somewhat a wandering facial expression and said, “Oo nga, mali na paluin nung bata yung Yaya nya. Pero ang palagay ko, kaya ganun ang kilos nung bata kasi yun ang nakikita nya sa paligid nya”. “Baka naman sanay na ang bata na makakita (o baka nga may experience na sya na sinasaktan sya) sa paligid nya nang mga taong nagsasakitan, tuloy, ang akala nung bata, OK lang na manakit,” I said. “O sige Ate, magpalagay ka na rin ng hidden camera dito sa bahay, para makita mo kung anong ginagawa ko kay Nico,” our Yaya rebut. “Hay naku, i challenge mo pa ako na magpalagay ng ganun. Wag kang mag-alala, may tiwala ako sa yo,” I said, then patting her at the back.
But really, it’s true. Kids are like sponge, they very well absorb what they see within their environment and so adults around him/her should served as role models for kids to follow. Maybe that poor little kid in the video was so exposed to seeing within his environment people hitting one or the other, the possible outcome would be, the kid thought hitting is but OK if one is not satisfied or would want to demand or get something.
The other thought that I wish to make an insight was about the reality that it’s really difficult to find a Yaya who could provide enough caring for a child, especially those in the infant, toddler and preschool years because they have yet to develop a certain degree of independence and would still need someone to guide and look after them. Unfortunately, with the current situation now where both parent need to work for a decent living, getting Yayas was the most common option, next to requesting a family relative as caregiver. And because these caregivers are often the ones who spend most of time with the kids, they should have the proper know-hows on childcare. However, the search for a good caregiver is often a dilemma for parents. Rarely, it is for working parents to find a good Yaya nowadays, and if a family could find a good one, these Yayas must have been heaven’s sent.
As for us, even if we have a stubborn and somewhat pasaway na Yaya, we’re thankful enough to find a loving person whose caring enough to look after our son while Jun and I are both at work. At some rare points, we somehow doubted her capacity to take good care of Nico. But with so many instances that had happened and with His guidance, we realized that we should give our son’s Yaya enough reason to learn, and a chance to be trusted (again). Otherwise, if we didn’t, Nico will be heart-broken because we very well know how much he loved his Yaya. He calls her Ate Ness by the way, in case we’ve all forgotten. 
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SCARY! Buti nahuli ang yayana yun.
The first 3 years are the most crucial, and it’s really tough to find someone you can trust to take care of your children and also set a good example for them.
By the way, hindi ko na nagawa yung song meme. Haven’t listened to the radio for a long time, maybe later I’ll have time to look through my MP3 collection
and how can working moms, whose kids are at the mercy of the yayas be assured that their kids are not being maltreated. gosh! do we leave it to blind trust? i remember seeing a neighbor’s yaya stuff the kid’s mouth with candy wrappers so that the kid would stop crying. and what do they do with the kids during the day? make them go to sleep so that by the time poor parents reach home the kids are hyper–they have slept most of the day, while the maids, esp those living in compounds do? of course, they chat, they text, etc.
i am lucky my mom has stayed with me through all my kids’ growing years, and until now. how i love my mom, i am so blessed!
Christianne, scary talaga ano. good thing she was caught! you’re right, the first three years are the most crucial in a child’s life, as it is said these times are the so-called foundation years, so guidance from all around is really important.
re: the meme, it’s OK, no need to rush. sexy mom haven’t done it either since theh time Salen tagged us before Holy Week. di ba Mommy Dine?
Sexy Mom, you’re indeed blessed to have your Mom to look after your kids while at work. i guessed you must have loved your Mom so much for that. my Mom also had a chance to take care of her apo when Nico was about 6-12 months old, but because my father was ill, i had no choice but to let her go. at least, i’m thankful enough for that six months.
and re: your neighbor’s yaya, grabe din sya ha. how rude can she get? i hope her employers knew what she had done to the kid!
I guess all of the moms have this fear of yayas. I am not exempted. I was even sharing my fears with the hubs, but as mommy dine said, sometimes, we just have to leave it to blind trust. My yaya loves Louna very much, and vice versa. She’s the only girl in the group of kids, so she’s quite a spoilt brat. And I know her discipline method - the time-out corner which I discovered unexpectedly - so I’m pretty tranquil on this point. Well, I hope.
Oh that’s so scary! This is one reason why I temporarily gave up my career to take care of my baby.
At least this couple’s child was saved from further abuse.
analyse, and your not exempted too? well, welcome to the Club! glad to know you’ve found a loving Yaya for Louna. the time-out corner discipline method is a concrete proof that she’s a Nanny that’s one of a kind.
KK, yes it’s true, mothering is far more important that anything else–even our careers. nakakainggit ka, i dreamed to be either a SAHM, if not a WAHM someday.
My son and SIL watched this video with me. When we were watching, my son went up to me and held my arm. He was wondering who was hitting the child. You see, he and my youngest daughter, as well as my eldest daughter grew up without a yaya. Matter of fact we are without a helper since my youngest was around 5 and she is 11 now. Back to my son, he was shocked with what he saw that’s why he seek to go near me and hold my arm. I don’t know how I would be able to take it if something like that happens to my children.
julie, your kids are blessed because aside from a loving Mom, they grew up entirely Yaya-less.
as for me, i wouldn’t know up to what extent i’m going to have that Yaya learn her lesson if she did the same thing to my child.
it’s really hard to find trustworthy yayas nowadays. i, too, had my fair share of wicked yayas. good thing my sons were not scared of telling off the yayas when things get out of hand.
i had this yaya who threw the feeding bottle at my son. my son was unscathed, buti na lang. my son told me of the incident when i got home from work. i confronted the yaya and she reasoned that “matigas daw ulo ng bata”. i was so gigil and inis talaga, i fired her.
during those times, both me and hub were working and we have no choice but to leave the kids to the yaya. some yayas i had were good and took good care of my kids and some, like the one i mentioned, are wicked.
mari, that was a horrible Yaya story. buti na lang at marunong ng magsumbong yung son mo. it’s never a reason to hit a child even he’s stubborn or matigas ang ulo. we parents are the only ones authorized to discipline our children diba. in some instances, we can authorize someone trusted to discipline our children, but still, it should be discretionary.
naparanoid naman ako dyan! kaya nung delicate pa alagaan ang anak ko considering na wala pa din akong alam, during her first year kahit na magastos, kuha naman pabalik-balik ang mother ko dito. masakit man sa bulsa dahil sa visa/ticket expenses, carry na lang para sa safety ng bata.
at least ngayon medyo ok na sya kasi 15 months old na, at ma-oobserve mo na sya yung well treated ba o hindi lalo na magaling ng manggaya ng nakikita.
hi mich, at least you have your mother to take care of your baby. its much costlier but definitely mas panatag ang loob mo that Deye’s OK while you’re at work.
naku, yes, a 15-month old is already capable na magsumbong sa iyo kahit di mo masyandong maintindihan sinasabi.
hi feng,
this is one reason why i can’t leave my daughter to her yaya, feeling ko i can’t be very sure that she will not harm my little girl kaya pag umaalis ako i always leave them with a relative.
hello Mommy Len, thanks for dropping by here.
having a relative to check on Yaya and Aizel is a good practice to really ensure the nanny is taking care of your lil princess well. you’re blessed to at least have an extra hand, you need not worry so much about her safety. for a family like mine whose far far away from relatives from both sides, ang hirap coz we just leave everything to blinded trust and pray hard nothing bad will happen to our little boy.